Things You Shouldn’t Chase In Life

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Whenever we chase after something, we take ourselves out of the present moment where life actually happens. The future doesn’t exist yet and the past is gone. The only really meaningful place to live is in the now and that’s generally where you’ll find what you’re looking for. To ensure you avoid such futile quests, we’ve compiled a list of some of the Things You Shouldn’t Chase In Life. 

Things You Shouldn’t Chase In Life

You should never chase perfection

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The only perfection is in being present, yet the perfectionist is never present. The closest thing to perfection is the ability to be fully present. Without any distracting thoughts measuring or grading ourselves, we’re free to really be in the moment. It’s at that moment that we’re truly alive. Yet, the perfectionist isn’t typically present, as they’re either busy critiquing the past and replaying their every decision or worrying about the future. So you see the perfectionist is never really present.

While this may seem like a noble cause, it can lead to much torment and despondency should they fail to reach the pinnacle. Neither does perfectionism stop at a skill, it can cause people to see themselves through distorted eyes as if they are gargoyles in an otherwise beautifully faultless world.

Success

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A basic definition of success is the realization of a particular goal, but more broadly, it is something far harder to pinpoint. We may judge others for their lack of it, or berate ourselves for not attaining it, yet success is utterly indefinable in the context of life. Because success means something different for all of us, and because these views can change over time, we shouldn’t try to chase it, whatever it is. There is no succeeding at life; nor is there any failing.

Because success means something different for all of us, and because these views can change over time, we shouldn’t try to chase it, whatever it is. There is no succeeding at life; nor is there any failing.

You should never chase youth

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Things You Shouldn’t Chase In Life- The arrow of time points forward away from birth and towards death. As gloomy as this may be, it is the truth. So with the passing of each day, month, and year, you should not yearn for what has come before.

Rather than trying to discover the fountain of youth, channel your energy into following your heart. It’s never too late. Martin P. Levin reached his dream to go to law school at age 61, and still practices law in his 90’s. Pierre-Auguste Renoir, crippled with arthritis, continued to paint with a brush strapped to his hand. What would you do if you had the courage to find out what you’re capable of accomplishing, no matter your age? That’s where your true vitality lies.

To try to cling to the fading glory of the past is a pointless exercise. By all means, savor the memories, but accept your aging as an inevitability. You can be young at heart and young of mind, but know that you will not always be young of body.

Anything You’re Not

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Many of the previous points could be summed up by saying that you should not chase anything that you are not. If you have to rely on external entities such as wealth, power, possessions, and other people to fill your life with meaning, you are going to be sorely disappointed.

These things, and what they stand for, are not who you are. You are you and this is all you can ever really be sure of. Don’t pretend to be someone else because you will live to regret every passing moment that you do.

Chasing People

If you have to work hard to keep an acquaintance or friend in your life, it’s probably best to let that person go. Not all relationships are healthy. Learn to tell the difference.

According to George Simon, author of In Sheep’s Clothing, beware of people who try to control you, stroke your ego to get what they want, tell lies, ignore you, make you feel guilty, put you down, play the victim, or cause you to doubt yourself. These energy vampires leave you feeling drained. If you take an honest assessment of your current friendships and family members, chances are you’ll find one or two there. Rather than chasing them to make the relationship work, distance yourself.